Corinne Mills, career expert and MD of Personal Career Management gives her tips on workplace conflicts and how to handle them effectively:
- Don’t feel you have to come up with the perfect answer all the time. Share problem-solving responsibility so that you get the people affected actively involved in creating their own solutions. They are far more likely to want to make it work if they feel they have had input into making it work
- Watch the emotion. Don’t get so hung up on practical solutions that you miss the emotional subtext which so often reveals what the issue is really about eg mistrust, not feeling respected. Be direct eg “you seem really angry about this” and they are far likely to tell you the truth about what the basis of that anger is – and it may be nothing to do with the actual issue you are discussing
- Stop the discussion. If things are getting really heated and difficult then call the proceedings to a halt and suggest you meet up again when tempers are cooled. There is a real danger of irreparable damage if things are allowed to get to a point when people will say things they regret
- Structure the discussion. Ask people to prepare their comments beforehand so that they are able to make focused points rather than wildly rambling. Give each person clear, uninterrupted time to make their points and ensure that everyone listens. This allows people to feel they have said all they want to say and they have been properly listened to. Often this is enough in itself to defuse the conflict
- Summarise back to them the points they have made in their argument, making sure you use their exact words eg “So from your perspective, you believe that…..”. You’re not saying that you agree with their points, but just showing that you have really listened to what they’ve said. This can be a very powerful way to reduce the tension in a conflict situation
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